celebrating all body shapes as they are!
Body positive excercise 
10th-Sep-2007 03:24 am [compliments]
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I would like everyone to share the best compliments they have ever gotten on their bodies as they naturally are.

Purely compliments you have gotten on your body or body parts from someone who truly appreciates your shape as it is. Anything goes, from compliments from your parents to lovers to friends to strangers to children. Post the compliments that you will always remember and will always make you smile and appreciate your beautiful self a little more every time you think of it.

Then go out and compliment someone(s) who crosses your path this week and you find yourself appreciating something about them. Compliment everyone who strikes you in some way, trust me, even the slightest gesture can make someone's day. :)

I'll start!


I used to bartend in a night club that opened unreasonably early. My best customers were my boyfriend's motorcycle buddies, they'd always come around and keep me company. These weren't "bikers", they were young, intelligent men who worked for a small and very upscale motorcycle design firm. One night I was wearing a scandalously tight red dress and stompy black boots in honor of the goth night. As I was rushing behind the bar to the DJ booth to stop a disc from skipping, I heard my boyfriend's friend Henri say to him "That one's just a freight train full of sex, isn't she?" with a nod and wink in my direction. My boyfriend laughed and nodded and raised his drink in a toast saying "Yes, yes, she definitely is and I love her."

There's this crazy guy who used to show up in New Orleans in the fall/winter months that I called the Mad Max guy. I'd glimpsed him before, in his leather jacket, pants and shoulder pads ala Mel Gibson, but I'd never met him, he was just another one of the nuts that make up the colorful New Orleans background. One night I was crossing Bourbon St. on my way to a club, when he hurtled out of the crowd and dropped to his knees in front of me his hands clasped as if in prayer. He said to me "You are a curvy goddess sent to earth, I have never seen anyone so beautiful. Will you marry me?" The people watching chanted "Kiss him! Kiss him!" so I pulled him to his feet and kissed him on the cheek and told him "Thank You for making my night before it has even begun." He grinned and ushered me through the crowd and bowed farewell to me once I was on the other side of the street.

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10th-Sep-2007 04:29 pm (UTC)
Mine came after my battle with an E.D, on a date with my daughter. I was feeling rather unattractive and trying not to relapse. My daughter (who is 4) got up, walked around the table, put her hand on my stomach, and said, "I love how soft your belly is now." And proceeded to snuggle me.

She's my best reminder of what beauty and strength are. :)
11th-Sep-2007 11:51 am (UTC)
awww!! that is so cute.
10th-Sep-2007 04:40 pm (UTC)
Awww this is such a good idea =)

My now-boyfriend told me the first time we were hooking up that he had never understood what people found attractive about "that tramp Marilyn Monroe" until he learned from me how sexy legs could be.

My roommate is constantly whining about being stick-skinny, and she has said multiple times to other people that she wishes she had "muscle and hips like Lindsay."
10th-Sep-2007 04:41 pm (UTC)
1. I had just moved to college about a month before, and my best friend was coming to visit. I lived in a co-ed cooperative house, and my neighbors, who were guys, were hanging out with my roommates and I. One of the guys asked me about my best friend, saying "Is she hot?" I said "Oh my gosh yes, she's that girl that all the guys want." He said "Well, that's you too, you just don't know it yet."

2. I'd struggled with an e.d. and my (now former) friend Justin had been there for me through it all, till just before I finished up counseling, when some issues came up. We parted ways, friendship-wise for awhile, and later became friends again for awhile. I was so nervous about seeing him after putting some weight back on, but we hung out one night of our local town's huge Oktoberfest. The whole night, he kept smiling at me...and finally, he came up close, put his arm around me, and said into my ear, "you look sooo good with a little bit of weight on you. No offense, but you weren't nearly as attractive before."
10th-Sep-2007 04:52 pm (UTC)
At a wedding last year I wore a figure hugging dress. The bride later told me that a male guest had said I looked like 'a pocket venus with a proper woman's figure not one of those stick insects you see everywhere'.
10th-Sep-2007 05:01 pm (UTC)
my ex-husband always called me Marilyn, saying he loved my curves. A guy I dated last year was really in good shape and I figured he thought my body was a mess. One night we were cuddling and he kept touching my belly roll. I'm always self-conscious of my belly roll when he holds me, and he likes to pet it (eek!) I try to not hold my breath or anything weird, but it's hard. So that night he was kind of holding my roll, and I gave a little groan--he said, "Are you okay?" I said, "yes, you're just grabbing my flub." He said, "Is that what you call it? I like it--it feels very feminine. It's one of the things I seem to really like about you."
10th-Sep-2007 06:56 pm (UTC)
I love that! It's similar (in a way...) to the story I'm gonna share (see below).
10th-Sep-2007 07:54 pm (UTC)
that is so beautiful.
11th-Sep-2007 12:02 am (UTC)

I used to think (sometimes I still do, but not nearly as much) the same thing, because my boyfriend's a runner so he's in really good shape, and I'm much squishier compared to him, haha.
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18th-Sep-2007 02:39 am (UTC)
The British. I dated a British boy once and he never called it my "butt", only my "bum". And I think ass once during dirty talk. He also never said panties or underwear, he said knickers. Which I found entirely too cute.
18th-Sep-2007 06:27 am (UTC)
People in England.
10th-Sep-2007 05:47 pm (UTC)
-My ex told me I had really thick thighs, I wasn't sure if it was an insult or not but then he clarified..."you know thick and extremely sexy are interchangable right?"
-He also told me that before we started dating he accidently brushed my side with his arm when we were in class and I felt so soft and so good, he just had to get to know me.

-My very thin sister (who everybody thinks has the perfect body) took some pictures behind one of those cardboard figures where they cut out the head and you stick yours in. Well the cardboard figure was a VERY curvy mermaid. When I commented on how awesome that picture was she said "I know, its my dream body...someday I will get like that"
10th-Sep-2007 07:01 pm (UTC)
This is an odd sort of thing that happened to me once... I've always been very self-concious of my tummy, being as I am a larger lady. A few years ago I had a friend (male) reach out with this huge grin and affectionately rub my tummy and tell me what a great buddha belly I have. Lol. I know that sounds weird, but it was just such a great moment of acceptance and body-love in the affectionate way he did it.
10th-Sep-2007 07:06 pm (UTC)
Oh, I love this idea! The first time my Boy and I got together, I was extremely insecure about being naked in front of him. He's extremely tall and slender, which possibly makes it even worst. As were getting to the deed I started trying to cover myself. He stopped, kinda just looked at me and said, "I don't know why you're doing that. I'd rather look at you any day of the week than a girl who looks like me. You just glow."

Oh, and I melted. Into a puddle.
11th-Sep-2007 07:01 am (UTC)
I would too.
10th-Sep-2007 09:11 pm (UTC) - Great Idea!
Well, I do not have too many of these kinds of stories but here are the ones that really stand out in my memory ...

-A friend and I were changing into our costumes (Halloween) and I was really uncomfortable with this because she is like a statuesque goddess in my eyes, very 90's Angelina Jolie. She looked at me and said, "Wow, you are so hot right now". I think I got the biggest cheese of my life from that.

-I was at a nightclub in my usual style of clothing, feminine with a touch of butch. A woman I had never met before walked up to me, grabbed my face and whispered in my ear "You are so voluptuous and I love it!"

-My best friend in college (whom I was secretly totally in love with) was sitting next to me in Math. I was having one of those days where I just felt completely disgusting about my body. She turned to me, put her hand on my cheek and told me I was beautiful. I've never felt more attractive then I did in that moment.
11th-Sep-2007 12:17 am (UTC)
When I went away to college, I gained a significant amount of weight. Among my family, people were speaking about it in hushed tones, as though I had cancer.
But at work, my coworkers kept giving me compliments about how "thick" I'd gotten, how I finally looked like I had a bootie, and generally how much better I looked. It was so much better to hear people say anything at all about my weight rather than treat it like some dread disease.

It was funny though. One of the administrators had just come over from Nigeria. The first time he saw me he said "Oh, you got fat! You look good!" Apparently he hadn't learned the art of euphamism yet... and come to think of it, why do I need a euphanism for how I look? I'm fat and I'm HOT.
11th-Sep-2007 06:18 am (UTC)
fat = p.h.a.t. = Pretty Hips And Thighs OR Pretty Hot And Thick. :D
11th-Sep-2007 01:43 am (UTC)
The first happened when I was in highschool. I had thrown on a short dress and run out the door to visit a friend, and her mother looked me up and down, shook her head, and said, "Girl, you're going to be dangerous someday."
More recently, I was hanging out with my brother's partner, who is an extremely thin woman. I made several negative remarks about my body as compared to hers, and she grabbed my hand, said, "Listen. You're a temptress. I'd date you, and I'm straight."

11th-Sep-2007 06:17 am (UTC)
this is an incredibly awesome and beautiful post! would you please make it public so that everyone can see it? :D
11th-Sep-2007 05:41 pm (UTC)
I have a few:

- I dated this guy long-distance for a while while I was in high school. One summer, when he was in town, we went to a water park. I was feeling really self-conscious amidst all the other girls in their bikinis, with flat stomachs and thinner legs. I was wearing a tankini (covers my tummy and emphasizes the boobs, yay!) and boy shorts, and as we were waiting in line, he kept holding me by the hips and stomach. I was all "eek, why are you touching my chub?", and he whispered "because it makes you look like a woman, not some eight-year-old girl".

- I met my first serious boyfriend in high school. One day, junior year, I'd finally gotten the courage to wear a skirt and heels to school. I was walking in the hallway between classes, saw him with a few friends up ahead, and yelled his name. He took one look at me and walked straight into a locker. I accused him of just being oblivious, but he covered my mouth, stared at my legs, and said "please don't talk right now, I need to just bask in the gorgeous".

- It's kind of creepy, but one of the members of the country club I work at bought me a drink while I was out with a friend one night. I got up to go to the bathroom, and when I came back, my friend hands me a drink and says "the guy in the blue shirt bought this for you. He said to tell you you look gorgeous when you're not in uniform."
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